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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Praise the sitting down at the desk, not only the finished piece. If recognition only shows up when something is completed, most weeks it never shows up at all.
Say what you actually saw, and say it close to the moment: you sat down twice today when you clearly did not want to. Small rewards work too, as long…
When a young person tells you something in their own blunt words, meet them there. Laughing together buys more trust than a well judged correction ever will.
Correct the language and you sort yourself into the same bin as every other disappointed adult, and after that the useful information stops arriving.…
Writing things down is not evidence that your memory has failed. It is what happens once there is more in your life than one head can hold.
Most people who refuse a system are protecting something: the sense of being capable, of not being the sort of person who needs help with this. Argue…
Put the uncertainty at the front. Not Thursday, possibly Friday, most likely Monday is worth far more to the other person than a confident yes you cannot keep.
It feels worse to say, which is why people avoid it. But a hedge given early costs you nothing, while a promise broken later costs twice: the thing…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Score each target from one to five rather than done or not done, and have the teacher say a word about it and initial the sheet before the child leaves the room.
Half the work finished earns a three. That matters enormously for a child whose usual score would be nothing at all, because a pass or fail sheet…