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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Before telling someone what you have noticed about them, ask whether they want it. Do you mind if I offer something back to you? Then describe only what you saw, plainly.
Close attention is not neutral for a person who grew up being watched for a reason. Asking first turns being observed into something they agreed to,…
A calming skill handed over at the wrong moment reads as your anger is not welcome here. For someone taught as a child that their anger was unacceptable, that is the old prohibition arriving again in kinder clothes.
Let the anger be seen first. Say that it makes sense, that there is a reason for it, and only then offer anything that settles the body. The order…
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