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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
In the heat of it there is no middle ground on offer. Asking yourself to see the grey areas mid argument is asking for something your mind is not running just then.
Extremity is the point of the system: anything built to survive a serious threat cannot stop to weigh probabilities. So when you notice you have gone…
Talking yourself out of anger while it is peaking rarely works. Noticing that a thought is happening costs far less than winning an argument with it.
The reasonable voice is quiet exactly when the alarm is loud, so debating yourself tends to end with you losing to yourself and feeling worse for it.…
Angry eyes and focused eyes look alike because they are doing the same job. Anger is your attention locked hard onto one target.
That description is more useful than a moral one, because attention is something you can practise and being a good person is not something you can…
Whatever you fix on costs you everything else in the room. In anger the picture stops moving and the target becomes the whole of it.
This is why the alternatives someone offers you mid argument sound like nonsense. You are not refusing to see them, you genuinely cannot see them…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Strong feeling narrows what you are aiming at, a narrow aim makes anything touching it look enormous, and that makes the feeling stronger. Get in early, because the loop is cheapest to interrupt at the start.
Waiting until you notice how big it has become means waiting until the loop has already gained. The practical version is to act on signals you would…