Practices

Move just before the difficult task, not after it as a reward. Five minutes of skipping, stairs or running on the spot, then sit down to the thing.

The window straight after moving is when focus is at its best, so that is the bit worth spending on whatever you have been dreading. For a child,…

The best ending is often that therapy stops and the practices carry on. People finish their sessions and keep the yoga, the bodywork, the acupressure, the sitting quietly.

It is worth building towards that from early on rather than at the end. If everything that settles you happens in one room with one person, then…

A skill that lives in your own body and your own phone stays with you after the appointments stop. That is worth choosing for.

Plenty of what helps during treatment ends when the relationship does. This does not. People often say afterwards that the breathing thing was the…

Neurofeedback usually starts with an assessment, then a block of sessions, then a review, and it is mostly paid for privately. Ask about all of that before you begin.

It is a referral rather than something your therapist adds to a session, so you are taking on a second appointment, a second bill and a second…

Feeling worse as things get safer is confusing, and it is common. When the guard finally comes down, whatever it was holding down gets felt.

This shows up when someone starts a calming practice, or moves somewhere safer, and instead of relief they get grief, irritability or a wave of old…

Getting ill the week after the exams, the deadline or the funeral is not bad luck. It is the pattern.

You hold together through the push, and the moment it stops you are in bed with something. Often it was already brewing while you were still going.…