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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Stop fighting what already is. Accepting a hard reality, without approving of it, ends the extra layer of pain.
Saying it is so is not the same as saying it is fine. Dropping the war with what already happened frees you to respond.
Soothe yourself through the senses: a warm drink, a soft cloth, a good scent, a slow walk. Be kind to the body.
When you cannot fix the feeling, comfort the one who is feeling it. Small kindnesses to the body settle the mind.
Accepting reality as it is means dropping the fight with what has already happened. It does not mean staying somewhere that is still harming you.
The two get confused often, usually by people who were told to be patient by whoever benefited from their patience. A rough test: acceptance is for…
Watch for the small thing that happens right as a feeling starts: the reach for a tissue, the laugh, the change of subject. Notice it once and say nothing, notice it again, and only then mention it.
One instance is an incident and three is a pattern, and the difference matters when you name it, because a pattern can be looked at together without…
Sometimes the thing that stops your tears is an order somebody gave you decades ago, and you are the one carrying it out now. One woman found her father's words sitting behind a habit of wiping her face dry the moment she cried.
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That is worth knowing because it changes who the rule belongs to. It was his voice, in her hands, running long after he had gone. Naming the source…