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This goes the way learning a bicycle went. You could not, then you could but only with all of your attention, then one day you rode without thinking about it. The middle bit is the ugly bit.
In that middle phase the skill works but it costs you everything to use, and it looks clumsy from the outside. That is where most people decide it is…
Meditation does more as upkeep than as a fire extinguisher. Doing it on the calm days is what lowers the level your threat system sits at.
If you only reach for it when you are already furious, it will seem useless and you will drop it, which is what usually happens. Practise it when…
Notice how much of the tightness in you is the verdict you are passing. As the judging comes down, the body tends to come down with it.
This is something you can test rather than something to believe. Catch yourself narrating: he always does this, she has no respect, typical. Then…
Knowing something calmly and feeling it are two separate achievements, and the second takes longer. If you can say the reasonable thing but it does not touch how you feel, you are partway, not failing.
The gap does not close by arguing with yourself harder. It closes by living it: doing the practice in real situations, in your body, while the…
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