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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Say the frightened thing rather than the sharp thing. It is far more exposing and it is the only version that tends to get a kind reply.
Under most rows sits something like I think there is something wrong with me, or I have already lost you and I am pretending I have not. Sharp words…
Once the feeling is actually in the room, ask the plain question: what did you hear her saying about you? The answer is usually where the sting really lives.
A comment about the washing up does not floor anyone by itself. It floors you because of what you heard underneath it, something along the lines of…
You do not have to reflect back everything a person just told you. Pick up the part that carries the weight and say that much.
A long, careful summary can flatten what someone has just risked saying. If the heart of it is that he feels defeated and frightened of never being…
Ask what is happening in the body right now, in the moment it happens, rather than asking afterwards what the feeling was.
A shutdown is quickest to catch while it is switching on. The question that works is small and physical: what is happening in your chest, your…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
The same sentence lands completely differently depending on who says it. If nothing stirs when it is described second hand, let the person it belongs to say it to you directly.
A therapist repeating what your partner said is information. Your partner turning to you and saying it, in their own voice, is an event. That is why…