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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Offer a full, tender apology for a wound, with no defence appended.
I see how that hurt you, and I am truly sorry. Then stop. The silence after is the repair.
After a fight cools today, say the reconnecting thing: we are still okay.
The fight can leave a quiet fear. Naming that you are still solid puts it to rest.
When your spouse names a wound you caused, listen without defending, even once.
Not I didn't mean to. First: I hear that I hurt you, and I am sorry. Defence can wait.
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