Practices

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Diogenes lived in a jar and told Alexander the Great to stop blocking his sunlight. If calm sounds soft to you, there is a version of it that is closer to refusing to be impressed.

Some people cannot get near gentle language about acceptance and hear all of it as being told to lie down. The Cynic flavour suits them better: not…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 20:131One line of research

Bring to mind someone easy to love, a person or a pet, and let the warmth actually arrive in your body. Then send the same warmth outward in stages: a stranger, a colleague, someone who irritates you.

The order matters more than the wording. Start where warmth comes freely, notice what it feels like, and move outward only while you can still feel…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 15:88One line of research

You can be completely right and still lose the room. Usually the trouble is not the point you are making, it is the edge you are making it with.

Softening how you say something is not conceding it. It is the difference between being heard and being braced against. Listen for the tells in your…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 41:46One line of research

Take from a bad encounter only what you need to get through it. Then stop, before it hardens into a rule about how things always are.

The mind wants to bank the lesson in the widest form it can: people are like this, that sort never changes, it always goes this way. That is how one…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 25:62

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One bad experience with someone in a uniform, or from any group, tells you something real about that encounter. It is not a verdict on everybody who resembles them.

This is not a request to talk yourself out of what you saw. If your wariness was earned, keep it, and keep yourself safe. The narrower move is to let…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 2:286One line of research

There are two different jobs here. One is getting through the flare when it is on you. The other is quietly changing, over months, what counts as a flare in the first place.

The first job is breathing, leaving the room, waiting before you reply. The second is slower and less dramatic: the practices that shift what you…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 18:46One line of research

The real skill is not spotting the hole in their reasoning. It is running the same test on the belief you hold most tightly.

Pick something you are sure of, something you would defend at a family dinner, and ask what it would look like if it were only mostly true. Where…

Twenty minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 53:39One line of research

You do not have to close your eyes. If keeping them open, soft and lowered, is what lets you stay in the room, that is the better version for you.

Closing your eyes takes away your ability to check the room, and for anyone whose body is used to watching, that costs more than it gives. Make it an…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 22:46One line of research

The body answers in sensations, in pictures, in a mood that turns up without explanation. If no words come when you check in, nothing has gone wrong.

People often decide they are bad at this because they went looking for a sentence and found a tight jaw instead. The tight jaw is the answer. Take…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 12:84One line of research

If a few quiet minutes with your body turn up an ache or a tightness you had not noticed before, the practice has not made things worse. It has shown you something that was already there.

This catches a lot of people out. They sit down hoping to feel calmer, meet a knot in the stomach instead, and decide the whole thing is not for…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 3:29One line of research

If you are moving attention through the body, start at the feet and work up. Leave the throat, the chest and the face until last.

The far edges of the body carry less charge, so they are a gentle place to find your bearings. Include the back, which people tend to skip: attention…

Twenty minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 40:19One line of research

There is a difference between watching your hand and being in your hand. See whether you can move from looking at a part of your body to living inside it.

Observing keeps a small distance, which is useful early on and can quietly become the whole practice. Inhabiting is the further step: filling the…

Twenty minutesFeeling from the insideMindfulnessQur’an 91:7One line of research

Say it plainly whenever you teach anything: the way I am showing you this is not the way it has to be done. Change it until it works for you.

Anyone who has failed at the standard version of something several times will not try again unless they are told clearly that adapting it is allowed.…

A minuteGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 65:7Long taught, never tested

Practise with the noise on, at least some of the time. The quiet room is not where you are going to need the skill.

A calm that only exists in a silent house is not much use in an open plan office or a kitchen at teatime. Once you can settle in the quiet, do a…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 2:153Long taught, never tested

Once a day, go from head to feet and notice what is there. A good deal of what you find will be plain need: thirsty, hungry, needing the loo, needing to stand up.

When you get absorbed in something these signals go unheard for hours, and then you wonder why you feel dreadful by four o'clock. The scan is dull,…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 106:4Long taught, never tested

Brain imaging does show that practice changes something. Be careful with anyone who tells you a great deal more than that.

It genuinely helps to know that sitting and breathing is not nothing, particularly if you have been told your whole life to just try harder. It also…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 2:255Long taught, never tested

In muscle relaxation you are usually told to let go slowly. If slow leaves you fidgeting, let go all at once. The version you will keep doing is the better version.

The standard sequence is to tense a muscle group, hold it, then release gradually, and for some people that long release is unbearable to sit…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 3:191Long taught, never tested

If sitting still with your eyes closed has never worked, do it moving. Walking, washing up, gardening: the exercise is the same, and there is something to hold on to.

Sitting meditation asks for the hardest possible version of the task, sustained inward attention with nothing outside to grip. Attach attention to…

Twenty minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 3:191Long taught, never tested

If your child is learning to settle, learn it alongside them rather than supervising. Parents who practise report less stress of their own and less flying off the handle.

Attention difficulties run in families, so the adult in the room is often working with much the same wiring at the end of a longer day. Practising…

Twenty minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 16:80Long taught, never tested

If your imagination runs away with you, use it rather than fight it. Guided imagery gives a vivid mind somewhere to go.

Being able to disappear into a scene is a real ability, even when it has mostly got you into trouble at school and in meetings. A recording that…

Twenty minutesGrounding and settlingMindfulnessQur’an 40:64Long taught, never tested