Practices

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A calendar holds things that happen at a time. A list holds things that must get done but not at any particular hour. Put both in one place and you break both.

When everything goes in the calendar, the real appointments get lost among forty invented blocks. When everything goes on the list, the dentist at…

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A task with no time attached has nothing to bring it back to you. Give it an hour, Friday two until three, and the diary carries it instead of your memory.

Do this on a Sunday with the list in front of you. Not everything needs a slot, only the things that have been sliding from week to week. Be honest…

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When someone asks for an hour of your time, your head searches for a clash, finds nothing, and says yes. A calendar with everything already in it turns that guess into something you can look at.

The trick is to put in the whole of your life, not only the appointments other people gave you. Travel, meals, the school run, the hour you actually…

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Pick one aim big enough to hold the year, and let it be the thing you measure choices against. Not a list of values. One.

It might be finishing the course, or being the parent who is actually there in the evenings. When something new arrives you hold it against that one…

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Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

The fear underneath anger

Grounding and settling

Facing it a step at a time

Shame and stigma

When you use something to cope

When everything feels flat

Righteous anger and perfectionism

Choosing your response

Growing empathy

When anger turns to harm

What worry does

Making it stick

Practising under provocation

Anger, alcohol and the body

Being seen and judged

Structure and routine

Equanimity and perspective

Posture and how you carry yourself

Use your strengths

Obsessions and compulsions

Feeling from the inside

Letting it out safely

Treatment and medication

Living with uncertainty

What you are actually defending

Rest and pacing

Question the thought

Read down a long to-do list and you will find things belonging to a person you were three years ago. Some of them were never good ideas. They got written down anyway.

Seeing the list that way makes deleting bearable. You are not abandoning your ambitions, you are letting go of ideas that arrived on a hopeful…

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A healthy list loses items as well as gaining them. Some leave because they are done and some because they did not survive the week. Both are normal.

If the only way something can leave your list is by being completed, the list can only grow, and every glance at it will feel worse than the last…

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If deleting makes you anxious, do not delete. Keep two lists: a short one for this week, and a long one where things are safe but out of the way.

The anxiety is usually about losing the idea rather than about the task itself, and a separate holding list answers that. Nothing is gone, it is…

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A pile is mostly decisions you have not made. You did not know what to do with the thing, so you put it down there to sort out later, and later has not arrived.

Read that way, tidying stops being about tidiness. The job is not moving things around, it is making forty small decisions you have been putting off.…

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A task needs smoothing at both ends. If it looks big and horrible you will not begin it, and if the middle is full of snags you will not see it through.

These are two different problems and people usually only work on one. Making the start smaller helps you begin: open the document, write one line.…

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Start with less work than they can manage, not more, and add back slowly. Break the long jobs into pieces small enough that each one can be finished and noticed.

Setting the first week deliberately below capacity feels like giving in. What it actually does is produce a run of finished things, and a child who…

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Teach the school's online system properly, once, and then treat it as something known. I do not know how to use it cannot stay true forever.

Sit down together and go through it: where assignments appear, how to see what is due, what to do when it will not load. Until that has happened,…

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Sort the room out before you sort the willpower out. One agreed place to work, television off, phone in another room for the duration.

Attention here is pulled by whatever is brightest, and a phone face down on the table still wins. Taking the competition out of the room is far more…

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A behaviour agreement needs six things in it: the goal, exactly what the child does, what they earn, what happens if they do not, signatures from everyone, and an adult who sticks to it.

Most of these fall apart over what was meant rather than over what was done, so write the specifics down to the level of what counts as finished. The…

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Guard sleep first, especially through any long stretch away from the usual routine. Once the nights slide, everything else you have set up starts giving way.

Holidays, illness and school closures are when bedtimes drift, and a fortnight of late nights undoes more than any homework plan can fix. Keep the…

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Put the schoolwork early in the day and let the screens come after it. For a teenager early means later than you would like, but the order stays the same.

Effort is a thing that runs down through a day, so the demanding job goes where there is most of it left. Teenagers really do wake up later, and…

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Work the deal out with the child instead of handing it to them. Much the same rules, an entirely different feeling.

Let them argue for a bit longer on the console, or for Friday off, and give ground where you honestly can. The terms tend to land in roughly the same…

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If your attention runs low on stimulation, salty and sweet food is the fastest legal source of a lift and it is available all day. Worth knowing about yourself, because it explains a pattern that willpower alone never seems to touch.

Rates of overweight and type 2 diabetes are higher in people with ADHD, and the reasons are not moral ones. A reward system that is under stimulated…

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Caffeine buys about half an hour of sharper focus and takes the payment out of your sleep. It is a decent tool for a particular hour, and using it in place of treatment usually leaves you worse off across the day.

Four cups a day and upwards starts producing insomnia, irritability, tremor, an unsettled stomach and a racing heart, and a few people go sleepy on…

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Irritable bowel symptoms turn up more often in people with ADHD, and they tend to track stress. If your stomach is at its worst in the weeks when everything else is at its worst, that is information rather than coincidence.

Two things help more often than they get suggested. Cutting caffeine frequently settles symptoms on its own, since it speeds the gut up and raises…

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If your mood drops reliably as the light goes, that is worth naming as a thing in its own right. Seasonal low is more common alongside ADHD, and a light box first thing in the morning helps a lot of people.

Use it early in the day and use it consistently, since the timing is part of how it works. It is also worth asking whoever prescribes for you about…

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