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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
A new response cannot be laid on top of a cycle that is still turning. Break the circle first, even clumsily, and the room for something else appears.
Interrupting looks small and slightly silly: standing up, walking to another room, going quiet mid sentence, putting the phone face down.…
To be compelled is to be driven, the way cattle are driven along a road. It makes a quick test in the moment: am I choosing this, or am I being moved?
You can usually feel the difference. Being driven has a narrow, hurried quality, and a righteous certainty that will not tolerate a pause. Choosing…
There are two ways to widen the gap between being provoked and responding: get better at noticing, and get better at choosing. They are separate skills, and having both means one can cover for the other.
On a good day you catch the heat rising and that alone gives you room. On a bad day you will catch nothing at all, and what saves you then is a…
If someone can predict how you drew those circles, they are not reading your mind. We are all running much the same small programmes.
That is worth saying plainly, because the discovery lands as a personal indictment for a lot of people, and shame makes anger worse rather than…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Now draw a fourth circle and choose everything about it: how big, where on the page, which way round, where you start. Notice how much heavier that feels.
The weight is the point. Deliberate control has a texture to it, and most people can feel the difference between the first three circles and the…