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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Take the thought that is upsetting you and ask: what is another way to read this?
The event is fixed; the meaning is not. A second reading often fits the facts and hurts less.
Notice when you have jumped to the worst story, and hold it as a guess, not a fact.
They meant to hurt me, this always happens. Label these as theories, then look for evidence.
Some thoughts you could defend all day, and debating whether they are true only gives them more of your time. Try a different question: is this thought kind to me, and does it take me anywhere I want to go?
This one earns its place when you have already proved the case to yourself and feel worse for having done it. You are not conceding the thought is…
At the end of a stretch of thinking like this, ask yourself plainly what you believe about yourself now, and how that differs from an hour ago.
Shifts that go unnamed tend to have evaporated by the evening. Saying the new version aloud, or writing a single sentence of it, turns it into…
Name one hard thing today and ask what it might be growing in you: patience, humility, nearness to God.
Not denying the difficulty. Finding the meaning inside it that makes it bearable.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.