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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Awareness runs a step behind the feeling. The work is not to stop anger arriving, it is to widen the gap between noticing it and acting on it.
Two things can be trained separately here: how fast you notice, and how long you can hold before you respond. Aiming at never getting angry sets you…
When someone's tone lands as an attack, part of that reading was made years ago. Your alarm hands you stored learning dressed up as a plain fact about right now.
Knowing this takes the accusation out of the word bias. You are not a suspicious person by nature, you are a person carrying a file that was built…
If the language of mindfulness puts you off, drop the language. Call it noticing what your mind is doing, and use it anyway.
Some people hear anything that sounds spiritual and close the door, and then a useful skill goes unused over a word. There is nothing here you have…
Picture a quick accelerator and a sluggish brake. In the moment the useful question is not "am I right", it is "which pedal is my foot on".
The brake also gets tired. After a long day of holding things in, the same remark lands harder, and that is worth planning around rather than judging…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
The braking part of the brain is not finished until the mid to late twenties. A teenager who cannot hold their tongue is not being defiant, they are working with equipment still under construction.
Expecting adult self-control from a fifteen year old sets everyone up to fail, and then to argue about the failing. What helps more is lowering the…