Practices

A long stretch at home is never neutral time. It teaches two things at once: staying away stops the dread, and staying away is pleasant.

That double lesson is why a few months out is so much harder to undo than a few days. First comes relief, then the slow morning, the screen, the…

If a child is at home, run the day as though it were a school day. Same wake time, same breakfast, bag packed, work starting when lessons would have started.

Ten hours of sleep followed by a slow morning turns home into somewhere far nicer than school, and a body clock that drifts later makes the next…

You will probably not feel yourself getting better. One day you will be halfway through a chat with a stranger and realise you are doing the thing you could not do.

This is worth knowing at the start, because the middle is where people decide nothing is happening and stop. The change comes in pieces too small to…

Nobody puts a child who cannot swim into the shallow end and calls it teaching. Before anyone goes near the thing they dread, they need something to do with their body and their head when the fear arrives.

It takes only one overwhelming attempt to teach the opposite of what was intended: that it really was too much, and that the adults will push anyway.…