Practices

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A small child does not have a feeling, they are the feeling, entirely, until it passes. Growing up is largely a gap opening between feeling something and doing something about it.

If that gap is narrower for you than for other people your age, it is a lag on a road everyone is on rather than a defect. The framing is worth…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 8:11One line of research

Being far apart is not the same as being out of touch. What usually stops contact is the question of who starts it, not the miles.

Distance turns into disconnection when both people wait for the other one. It helps to fix a when rather than promising to speak soon. The same…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 50:16One line of research

Moods travel. Laughter spreads through a group of friends, and so does contempt, gloom and low grinding cynicism. It is fair to think about which rooms you sit in.

This is not about cutting people off. It is closer to noticing that you leave certain conversations heavier than you arrived, and choosing to make…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 6:68One line of research

Pulling back from things is easier. That is not the same as safer. The cost of a smaller life arrives later and quietly, which is exactly why it goes unnoticed.

It helps to be honest about the trade. Saying no to the party buys you a calm evening and charges you a slightly smaller world. Once or twice that is…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 7:200One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Breaking the worry loop

Food, caffeine and fuel

Righteous anger and perfectionism

When you use something to cope

Choosing your response

Growing empathy

Reading, numbers and learning differences

When anger turns to harm

Making it stick

When everything feels flat

Self-compassion

Emotions as signals

Anger, alcohol and the body

Facing it a step at a time

Getting assessed and diagnosed

Tolerate distress

Obsessions and compulsions

Use your strengths

Being seen and judged

Touch and bodywork

Help someone grieving

Shame

Rest and pacing

Question the thought

Practising under provocation

When your child comes to you in a spin, the kind thing is to stay warm and steady rather than to promise that it will be fine. Reassurance settles the next ten minutes and feeds the asking.

It sounds cold and it is not. What your steadiness says is two things at once: this feeling is real, and I think you can carry it. Keep it short and…

Five minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 2:153One line of research

If your only system for remembering things is your head, of course you are anxious. Nothing is safe in there and some part of you knows it.

Some people hold everything mentally because letting go of it feels like the thing will stop existing. The answer is not trying harder to remember.…

Five minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 2:286One line of research

Self-restraint runs on a supply that stress uses up. In a week when everything is late and nothing has been slept on, you will react to things you would normally let go.

That is worth knowing because it changes what you work on. Instead of trying to be more patient at the moment of provocation, look at what is quietly…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 20:25One line of research

Certain situations take you apart every single time. The reunion, that one relative, the friend who makes remarks. You are allowed to simply not go.

This is not cowardice, it is arranging your life around what you already know about yourself. Much the same logic as not keeping the biscuits in the…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 6:68One line of research

Step in while a child is only starting to wind up, and offer something calming rather than a correction. Slow breathing, counting, a soft toy, a quiet corner for a few minutes.

Three to ten minutes in a set place is plenty. It works best when the offer is warm and matter of fact, one sentence, no lecture about what they did.…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 13:28One line of research

The whole value of a calming corner is that the child can take themselves there. An adult may suggest it, but if it is only ever ordered, what gets learned is obedience rather than self-regulation.

Make it clearly available rather than assigned. They go, they take their few minutes, they come back with a short hello and a nod at whatever they…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 2:45One line of research

Instead of sending a child out to sit and stew, send them to a side table for three very easy worksheets, then straight back to whatever everyone else is doing.

It takes them out of whatever was rewarding about the behaviour without leaving them with nothing to do and an audience to play to. Keep the work…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 20:26One line of research

Time with people is not the nice extra you get to once the real work is done. Put it alongside sleep, medication and exercise rather than underneath them.

It helps to treat it like any other part of a plan, with something specific in the week rather than a general intention to be more social. One…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 2:45One line of research

Belonging to the group does nothing. Going does. Having a friend does nothing either, unless you see them.

So count the actual events. How many times this week did you sit with someone, not message them. A number you can check beats a resolution to be more…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 8:11One line of research