Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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A wave across the road, a joke with the man in the shop, asking someone how they are and meaning it. These unplanned seconds count for more than they look like they should.

They are also the easiest place to start when arranging a proper meet up feels like too much. Almost nothing is at stake in a greeting, so a fear of…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 25:63One line of research

If rating a feeling out of ten means nothing to you, use something that does. Colour in bubbles, point at a picture, hold your hands apart to show how big it is today.

This began as an adaptation for children, swapping the numbered anxiety ladder for bubbles to colour in, and it is just as useful for anyone who goes…

Five minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 2:286One line of research

After years of feeling slightly outside every room, pulling back stops being a decision and becomes the setting you live at. Worth knowing about yourself before you conclude that you are simply not a people person.

If you are supporting or treating someone with ADHD, assume the connection has to be built rather than already there, and do not read the flatness…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 16:127One line of research

Worry done on your own goes round in circles. Said out loud to one other person, it usually turns into a problem with edges, and sometimes into a next step.

The rule is short enough to remember at midnight: never worry alone. It does not have to be someone who can fix anything. A friend, a colleague, your…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 9:40One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

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The moment before you snap

Tolerate distress

Structure and routine

Remembering to do it

When everything feels flat

When you use something to cope

Exercise, food and other supports

Bringing the future closer

Food, caffeine and fuel

Practising under provocation

When anger turns to harm

Making it stick

Letting it out safely

Growing empathy

Facing it a step at a time

Self-compassion

Feeling from the inside

What you are actually defending

Anger, alcohol and the body

Living with uncertainty

Righteous anger and perfectionism

Rest and pacing

Question the thought

Getting assessed and diagnosed

Emotions as signals

Being seen and judged

Use your strengths

Setting out to get rid of worry altogether sets you up to fail twice, first at the worry and then at the failing. A kinder aim is to change how you sit with it.

Anxiety and ADHD keep close company, and for most people some background hum does not go away. What can change is what happens next: whether you…

Five minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 13:28One line of research

Fear tends to make its case as caution. Try not to let it quietly shrink what you are willing to attempt, because the shrinking rarely stops on its own.

If you have been criticised often enough, staying out of things stops feeling like a choice and starts feeling like plain good sense. The way back is…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 3:139One line of research

Worry does two things at once. It makes the problem bigger than it is and it makes you smaller than you are. The second half is the one that usually goes unchallenged.

After years of being told you get things wrong, a low estimate of yourself does not feel like a distortion, it feels like the evidence. So argue with…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 2:286One line of research

When someone has gone flat, the question is not what they ought to be doing. It is what still has any life in it for them, however small or unimpressive, and then how to get more of that.

Activities handed out from the outside do not lift much. Someone who brightens talking about their car, or a cousin, or a game has just given you the…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 94:1One line of research

Sometimes the answer is not a better system. It is doing less, including giving up something you love, because what it costs you has stopped being affordable.

Scouts on a Tuesday, the second job, the committee. Losing one of these is a real loss and it is worth grieving rather than pretending you never…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 2:286One line of research

Connection does not have to be human. A dog will not judge how your week went, and it will get you out of the door twice a day whether you feel like it or not.

If people currently feel exhausting or risky, an animal is often the easiest place to begin. Part of the good is the company and part of it is the…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 48:4One line of research

If you are permanently behind, short of sleep and scrambling, that is not the backdrop to your short fuse. A good deal of the time it is the cause of it.

This is what makes the dull organisational work worth doing, because it buys you something you actually want. A morning that is not a panic leaves…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 94:1One line of research