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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Everyone knows the line about sticks and stones. If words really could not hurt you, you would not still be turning over what he said.
It is a rhyme we all agreed to and none of us believe. Rather than argue with it, set it beside the evidence: the words landed, so something in them…
Some anger fires when your image takes a knock: your child playing up in a shop, your name left off something, a correction in front of other people. What got punctured was the picture of yourself.
The tell is the phrase, said or unsaid, that this reflects badly on me. Managing the triggers will not help much, because they are endless and small.…
Being late on purpose, the joke with an edge, the job done just badly enough: that is anger at full strength, only sent by a quieter route.
People who do this often say honestly that they never get angry, and they believe it, because what they are picturing is shouting. The feeling is all…
Anger feels righteous while it lasts. The useful moment comes later, when the regret shows up and the story has gone quiet.
Nobody changes course mid-shout, and pressing then only adds fuel. Hours or a day afterwards there is usually a stretch where a person is…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Some anger arrives with an argument already inside it: that they disrespected you, that this is not how you are meant to be treated. It burns cooler than the sudden kind and it lasts much longer.
Because it is made of a story, it can be handled at the level of the story. What did that gesture actually mean. What would it mean if they were…