Practices

Take the thought that is upsetting you and ask: what is another way to read this?

The event is fixed; the meaning is not. A second reading often fits the facts and hurts less.

At the end of a stretch of thinking like this, ask yourself plainly what you believe about yourself now, and how that differs from an hour ago.

Shifts that go unnamed tend to have evaporated by the evening. Saying the new version aloud, or writing a single sentence of it, turns it into…