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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Before you reach for a technique, notice what you privately think anger is. A room can hear disapproval underneath even a well chosen intervention.
It is worth spending real time on your own account of the thing: where it comes from, what it is trying to do, what it costs. If you hold it as bad…
Skills rehearsed in total calm tend to vanish at the moment you need them. Practise on something still slightly warm, a real incident from this week, close enough that you feel a little of it.
Bring the scene back in enough detail that your chest tightens a bit, then do the work right there. What you read into it, what else it might have…
If you grew up where the threat was real, your reading of a raised voice is not a distortion. It is accurate to somewhere you used to be.
So the work is not correcting a mistake. It is learning to tell one setting from another, which is slower and needs practising in daylight rather…
For most people anger is weather that passes. For some it is closer to climate: quicker to arrive, bigger when it lands, slower to leave.
Knowing which you are changes what you plan for. Weather can be waited out. Climate needs arrangements: sleep kept regular, fewer things stacked on…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Live under enough strain for long enough and anger stops being an event. It settles into a new normal, and it can feel as though your character has changed.
Ask what has been running in the background: money, pain, night shifts, a job that grinds, somebody ill at home. When those ease the baseline often…