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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Awareness runs a step behind the feeling. The work is not to stop anger arriving, it is to widen the gap between noticing it and acting on it.
Two things can be trained separately here: how fast you notice, and how long you can hold before you respond. Aiming at never getting angry sets you…
Your threat system is not a neutral observer. It listens out for danger, so it tends to find some, and your first read of a situation leans towards the worst version of it.
That does not make the read wrong, it makes it a first draft. In practice it means checking before acting: was that tone really aimed at me, did they…
When someone's tone lands as an attack, part of that reading was made years ago. Your alarm hands you stored learning dressed up as a plain fact about right now.
Knowing this takes the accusation out of the word bias. You are not a suspicious person by nature, you are a person carrying a file that was built…
You will hear tidy explanations of what your brain does when you get angry. Take the useful part and hold the neat story loosely.
Some popular claims about the emotional brain, including which side handles which feeling, are still argued over by the people who study them. That…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Two honest studies can point in opposite directions, and neither is a verdict on you. Nothing in a brain scan can yet tell one person how angry they are or will be.
Smaller amygdala volume has been linked with aggression in some samples, and eight weeks of mindfulness practice has also been linked with volume…