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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Telling somebody one thing you are quietly embarrassed about will bring you closer than a month of pleasant conversation.
It does not have to be dramatic. The worry you have never said out loud, the mistake you still think about at night, the thing you are no good at.…
If you keep saying yes and then feeling furious about it, the problem may not be that you care too much. Often it is that you cannot bear anyone being displeased with you.
The two look identical from outside and they need completely different answers. Genuine feeling for someone is warm and tiring. Fear of disapproval…
If it really is that you feel too much for people, the useful move is not more feeling. It is learning to say no while still meaning them well.
Naming your softness as something that gets used is what makes a limit bearable to set. You are not becoming colder. You are stopping the slow build…
You cannot decide to feel closer to people. You can decide to eat with them, walk with them, sit near them and say one true thing, and the closeness tends to follow.
The chemistry gets talked about a great deal and it is the least useful part. What you can act on is the diary: a standing meal with someone, a hand…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Four ordinary things take the edge off a hot temper: being touched by someone you trust, eating with people, moving your body hard enough to breathe, and sitting still for a few minutes a day.
None of them are about anger directly, which is the point. Exercise lowers what you are already carrying before the argument starts. A shared meal…