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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Sort the room out before you sort the willpower out. One agreed place to work, television off, phone in another room for the duration.
Attention here is pulled by whatever is brightest, and a phone face down on the table still wins. Taking the competition out of the room is far more…
A behaviour agreement needs six things in it: the goal, exactly what the child does, what they earn, what happens if they do not, signatures from everyone, and an adult who sticks to it.
Most of these fall apart over what was meant rather than over what was done, so write the specifics down to the level of what counts as finished. The…
Put the schoolwork early in the day and let the screens come after it. For a teenager early means later than you would like, but the order stays the same.
Effort is a thing that runs down through a day, so the demanding job goes where there is most of it left. Teenagers really do wake up later, and…
Work the deal out with the child instead of handing it to them. Much the same rules, an entirely different feeling.
Let them argue for a bit longer on the console, or for Friday off, and give ground where you honestly can. The terms tend to land in roughly the same…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
If you are pulled towards risk, you will do better giving that pull somewhere with a floor under it than trying to switch it off. Fast, high, cold, loud: choose the planned version rather than the one that turns up at two in the morning.
Work out what the appeal actually is. Speed, height, cold water, a crowd, the edge of fear. Then find the form of it that has brakes: a climbing wall…