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Focus, starting, and ADHD
Most advice about focus is written for a brain that starts easily. This area is not. It covers what ADHD actually is, how to make a start when starting is the hard part, how to bring a future consequence close enough to feel, and how to stop paying for it in shame.
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Implementation intentions
Putting things off is mood repair rather than laziness: delay removes the bad feeling straight away and the cost lands later. So the move is not more willpower, it is a plan specific enough to run without a decision.
One move, today
Write one sentence: when it is [time] and I am at [place], I will [the first small action]. Naming when and where is the part the evidence supports.
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5 practicesEverybody finds unrewarding tasks harder to start. If yours seem to cost several times what other people pay, that is a real difference in how your brain handles reward, not a flaw in your character.
It shows up worst on the jobs with nothing built into them: the form, the receipts, the email you have already read four times. Knowing the cost is…
Make the first move small enough to be almost silly. Open the document and type the date. Put the trainers by the door. Everything after that is cheaper.
Nearly all the cost of a task sits at the entrance, so that is where your design effort should go. Decide the first physical action the night before,…
Take half a minute and see Thursday night in detail, both versions: the one where you did some of this today, and the one where you did not.
Knowing about a deadline does almost nothing. Feeling it does the work, and feeling arrives through detail. The lamp still on, what is open on the…
Ask a friend to be the person who knows. Send them a line on the days you went, with no reply needed. Being known about today is what does the work.
It only helps if you set it up yourself and say exactly what you want, otherwise it slips into being nagged. Keep it small and specific: one line,…
Everything you say about how much you hate this job is probably true, and saying it again makes the job heavier. Notice the second or third round and stop there.
Complaining once is fine and often useful. The loop is what costs you, since each pass makes the task feel worse and spends the energy you were going…