Lesson 3 of 6 · Kazm al ghayz is not silence
What this does not settle
This platform is not a mufti and there are questions here it will not answer.
Whether kazm requires silence in a particular situation. Where the line falls between anger for the sake of God and anger for yourself. What is owed to a person for words said in the heat of it. And what the status is of a divorce or an oath pronounced in anger, which has a serious scholarly literature behind it, and where the answer depends on the degree of anger and on the school being followed.
That last one in particular is a question people search for at two in the morning and take the first answer they find. Do not do that. Take it to a qualified mufti who can ask you what actually happened.
The reports below are here only so that you know the question is a real one with a textual basis rather than a piece of your own anxiety. They say there is no divorce and no emancipation under ghalaq, which is rendered here as constraint or duress, and Abu Dawud records inside the text itself that he thinks ghalaq means anger. That is enough to show you the discussion exists and is structured. It is nowhere near enough to tell you what your own case is, the schools split on the middle case, and nothing on this page is a ruling.
Qur’an and Sunnah
Here only so that you know the question is a real one with a textual basis rather than a piece of your own anxiety. Abu Dawud records inside the text itself that he thinks ghalaq means anger. The limit is emphatic: this is nowhere near enough to tell you what your own case is, the schools split on the middle case, and nothing here is a ruling.
Muhammad ibn Ubayd ibn Abu Salih who lived in Ayliya said:I went out with Adi ibn Adi al-Kindi till we came to Mecca. He sent me to Safiyyah daughter of Shaybah who remembered a tradition (that she had heard) from Aisha. She said: I heard Aisha say: I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say: There is no divorce or emancipation in case of constraint or duress (ghalaq). Abu Dawud said: I think ghalaq means anger
Sunan Abi Dawud 2193graded sound, albanithe Arabic and its grading
The second wording, and it renders ghalaq as coercion. Same purpose and same limit. It shows the discussion exists and is structured, and it settles nothing about you. Take that question to a qualified mufti who can ask you what actually happened.
It was narrated that Safiyyah bint Shaibah said:"Aishah told me that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'There is no divorce and no manumission at the time of coercion
Sunan Ibn Majah 2046graded sound, albanithe Arabic and its grading