The half nobody gives you permission for

Everything so far has been about making room for the grief. This lesson is about the other side, and it is the one people need permission for.

The crossing needs two banks. If the ordinary side of life is closed off, there is nowhere to cross to, and the grief has nothing to be interrupted by.

Nobody is asking you to feel better, and nothing here is a technique for feeling less. It is much duller than that. It is doing an ordinary thing for a while, and then stopping.