The thing that gets said at funerals

Be patient. Do not cry, it disturbs the dead. Crying is a complaint against the decree. Where is your faith.

It gets said with good intentions, at the worst possible moment, by people who are frightened by your face. And it does specific damage, because a person who believes it will hold their breath through the one part of this that everybody needs to do.

What follows is what the Qur'an and the sound reports actually contain. It is not a small correction.