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You can learn these the way you would learn anything else you were not taught. Ask one person you trust to tell you plainly what they notice, since most people will soften it into uselessness unless you ask them not to. A couple of concrete habits go a long way: ask a question back before adding your next thought, and count two beats before speaking when you feel the urge to jump in.
Man is ever hasty (Quran 17:11). Speaking before the thought is finished is named there as a general human tendency, which makes it something to work on rather than a private defect.
الإسراء
وَيَدۡعُ ٱلۡإِنسَٰنُ بِٱلشَّرِّ دُعَآءَهُۥ بِٱلۡخَيۡرِۖ وَكَانَ ٱلۡإِنسَٰنُ عَجُولࣰ ا
Yet man prays for harm, just as he prays for good: man is ever hasty
Qur’an 17:11read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A review of shared heritability finds that ADHD and autism co-occur very frequently and share heritable factors, so overlapping social traits are expected rather than anomalous. If reading people has always been effortful, that is a recognised part of the territory. It is a review of heritability rather than a study of social skills training.
Rommelse NN, Franke B, Geurts HM, Hartman CA, Buitelaar JK. (2010). Shared heritability of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder and autism spectrum disorder.. European child & adolescent psychiatry doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
These rules are usually picked up by watching, and watching closely is the thing that is hard here.
With ADHD the one dependable thing is that you are not dependable in the same way each day. A day when everything works and a day when nothing does can arrive with no reason you can find.
Roughly one person in twenty has ADHD, and the figure holds up across very different countries. You are not part of a modern trend.
The same mistake costs far more when you have no money behind you. Legal trouble is not handed out evenly, and that sits on top of the earning difficulties ADHD already brings.