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The sad and tearful picture is what everyone watches for, so the grumbling version gets read as character and goes untreated for years. If a young person has been described as negative or difficult for as long as anyone can remember, ask how long it has been that way rather than how bad it is this week. Duration is the clue here, not intensity.
your Lord has not forsaken you, nor does He hate you (Quran 93:3). Worth holding for someone who has become hard to like and half suspects it themselves.
الضحى
مَا وَدَّعَكَ رَبُّكَ وَمَا قَلَىٰ
your Lord has not forsaken you [Prophet], nor does He hate you
Qur’an 93:3read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A systematic review found that repetitive negative thinking in adulthood is more common among people who were exposed to adversity in childhood. A steady bleak commentary often has a history behind it rather than being a fixed trait. Reviews of this kind pool associations across studies, so this is a reason to ask about the background, not a claim about any particular person.
Mansueto G, Cavallo C, Palmieri S, Ruggiero GM, Sassaroli S, Caselli G. (2021). Adverse childhood experiences and repetitive negative thinking in adulthood: A systematic review.. Clinical psychology & psychotherapy doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Something that has run for years stops looking like a state and starts looking like the person.
Parents see an adult sized person and assume adult sized judgement. It helps to say out loud that the wiring is still being finished well past eighteen.
Strong feeling about injustice can look a lot like being argumentative. Do not file conviction as defiance without checking.
When you assess a young person, take a reading of the adults as well: what they understand about the world their child lives in, and how comfortable they are in it.