Practices

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People rarely stop at you are late. They move on to what sort of person is late, and then it is about respect and reliability rather than about time. You have probably taken that account on board yourself.

Naming the jump out loud helps, at home and at work: this is a difficulty with timing, here is what I am putting in place, and it is not a comment on…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 17:11One line of research

A child who is blind to time is not ignoring the deadline. They are living in whatever is happening right now, with no sense that the bell is close or that Friday's test has anything to do with today.

It shows up as reacting to each moment rather than moving through a day with a shape. Adults read that as not caring, and the child usually cannot…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 21:37One line of research

The pattern usually ends the same way. Nothing feels urgent, then the deadline lands all at once, and the child panics and produces something poor or nothing at all.

Once you can see the sequence, you can step in near the beginning instead of managing the wreckage at the end. Say it out loud with the child,…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 18:23One line of research

If the test is on Friday and it is Monday, Friday is doing almost no work. Put something today on the end of today's revision, however small.

This is not spoiling a child. It is matching the reward to the timescale they can actually feel, which is roughly the one they are living in. Half an…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 78:11

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Cool the body first

Emotions as signals

Equanimity and perspective

Listening and understanding

When everything feels flat

When you use something to cope

The moment before you snap

Structure and routine

Touch and bodywork

Getting assessed and diagnosed

Growing empathy

Food, caffeine and fuel

Shared spiritual life

Rituals of connection

Tolerate distress

Reading, numbers and learning differences

Treatment and medication

Being seen and judged

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Shame

Shame and stigma

Righteous anger and perfectionism

Panic and the body

Grounding and settling

The fear underneath anger

Rest and pacing

Living with uncertainty

Repair after rupture

Practising under provocation

Posture and how you carry yourself

What you are actually defending

Obsessions and compulsions

When you go numb

Making it stick

Help someone grieving

Affection and touch

Feeling from the inside

Breathing

Ask and say no well

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If the only real feedback a child gets arrives every ten weeks, it will not shape a single Tuesday. A report at the end of term is a record, not a motivator.

This is worth saying gently to teachers and to parents who feel that grades ought to be motivation enough. For this child they are not, and no amount…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 18:19One line of research

For younger children, make the reward small, concrete and soon. Stickers, points, a smiley face, five minutes of something good, handed over the same hour rather than at the end of the week.

Points that build towards something bigger work well, as long as the point itself arrives immediately. Hourly is not too often for a young child, and…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 11:114One line of research

Keep consequences for the sake of honesty, but let praise and reward do most of the work. Punishment can tell a child what to stop and it cannot tell them what to do instead.

Children with this difficulty collect an extraordinary amount of correction over a childhood, from teachers, from parents, from other children.…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 30:17One line of research

Go looking for the moment the child does the thing you have been asking for, and say so while it is still happening. Most of us watch for the problem and only notice the good behaviour when we have run out of trouble.

It helps to decide in advance what you are hunting for, so that starting the homework without being asked, or waiting a turn, actually registers…

Five minutesYour sense of timeADHD skillsQur’an 25:62One line of research