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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Your brain is less a single organ than a crowd of billions of cells working out what to do next. The angry pull you feel is one voice in that crowd, not the whole of you.
This matters most in the second when an impulse arrives sounding completely certain. You can hear it, treat it as one contribution, and still not act…
You do not have to believe the calmer sentence yet. Say it anyway, on purpose, often, and belief tends to arrive behind the repetition rather than in front of it.
Pick one line you would want ready in your mouth, something like: he is not doing this at me. Repeat it in quiet moments, not only in hot ones. It…
A new practice needs somewhere to live. Hook it to something you already do a few times a day, like sitting down to eat.
Vague plans to practise more collapse without anyone noticing. Name the moment instead: when I put my plate down, I take three slow breaths before…
Nobody sees the times you did not say the cutting thing, including you a week later. Put them somewhere you can look at: one sticky note on the wall for each.
Memory is unfair about this. The single evening you lost your temper stays vivid while thirty quiet successes disappear, and then it feels as though…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
If you held back at four o'clock and then snapped at seven, the holding back still happened. A later slip does not reach backwards and cancel it.
All or nothing scoring is the quickest route from one lapse to giving the whole thing up: I lost it, so none of it was working, so why bother. Count…