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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
If anger management sounds like something being done to you, call it impulse control instead. The work is the same and the word is easier to live with.
Plenty of people who will not sit through feelings talk will happily work on catching an impulse, because that sounds like training rather than…
A certain wariness is standard equipment. Nothing in this work is trying to leave you soft and open to whatever comes along.
People often hesitate here because it sounds like being asked to stop protecting themselves. The opposite is nearer the truth: you keep the guard and…
This is just how I am ends more attempts at change than anything else. It is also less true than it feels.
Temperament is real and some people do run hotter than others. What is not fixed is what you do in the ten seconds after something lands, and that is…
Humans have a long history of harming each other, and pretending otherwise keeps nobody safe. Assume the capacity is there and plan around it.
Saying this plainly is not gloom. If you expect people to be naturally peaceable, an aggressive impulse looks like a monstrous exception, and you…
Before you reach for a technique, notice what you privately think anger is. A room can hear disapproval underneath even a well chosen intervention.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
It is worth spending real time on your own account of the thing: where it comes from, what it is trying to do, what it costs. If you hold it as bad…