Practices

ADHD clutter and hoarding look alike from the doorway and are not the same thing. Many people living among piles would be delighted if the lot vanished overnight.

Hoarding is about not being able to part with things. This is more often about sorting being unbearable, or about keeping something in case it turns…

Distraction and disorder feed each other. Every hunt for the missing keys is a perfect opening for your attention to wander off somewhere more interesting.

Which is why sorting the house out is not a side project to the attention problem. Ten minutes of searching is precisely the dull, shapeless stretch…

Help lands best at the moment and in the place the behaviour is actually needed. A skill taught in a quiet room on Tuesday rarely turns up in a noisy classroom on Thursday.

Which means the teacher standing there at the time is in the strongest position of anyone, and the parent at the kitchen table is next. Someone…

A school to home report works daily for younger children and weekly for older ones. The point is to close the gap between what happened at school and anything that follows at home.

A young child cannot hold a week of behaviour in mind, so a week later means nothing to them. A teenager can, and daily can feel like surveillance.…

Put behaviours on the report, not grades. Finished the class work, followed the rules, got on with the others, handed the homework in.

A grade is weeks of work, a marking scheme and a bit of luck, and no child can decide on a Tuesday to have a better one. The behaviours underneath it…

Two to four targets is the usual advice and three is plenty. A longer list looks thorough and quietly stops working.

Every extra line is another thing a busy teacher has to notice and rate honestly at the end of a lesson, and another thing the child is meant to hold…

Send the report between the adults, by email or through the school system. Do not make the child carry a piece of paper to four teachers and then home.

Carrying a document around all day, remembering to produce it at the right moments and getting it home in a bag is exactly the sort of thing the…

A report card with nothing attached to it changes nothing. The ratings have to lead somewhere at home, to something earned or not earned that day.

The sheet is only a measurement. What actually shifts behaviour is what follows it, which means the family side is where these plans live or die.…

Early on, reward the work being finished even when it is rough. Accuracy tends to follow once things are getting done at all.

If the reward only arrives for good work, a child who never finishes anything earns nothing, and a plan that pays out nothing stops being a plan. Set…

When a decision is looming, write the options out rather than talking them through. A test is coming: do nothing, make a revision timetable, ask for extra help. Three lines on paper.

Options do not tend to appear by themselves when planning is hard, and holding three of them in mind while weighing them up is harder still. On paper…

Make one list in the morning, glance at it a few times during the day, and move whatever is left onto tomorrow's list rather than letting it disappear.

The glancing matters as much as the writing, since a list written at eight and never looked at again is just a piece of paper. Carrying items forward…

Make handed-in homework one of the tracked targets. It is the thing that goes wrong most and the thing worth most when it goes right.

Homework has four separate places to fail: writing down what it is, bringing the right things home, actually doing it, and getting it back the next…

Look in often, say the good bits out loud, and stop for a few minutes about every hour. Three small things that carry more than any talk about concentrating harder.

Checking in supplies the noticing a child cannot yet do for themselves, and it lands better as a passing question than as an inspection. The praise…

If attention is the diagnosis and reading, writing or maths is still unusually hard, ask whether there is a second thing sitting underneath. The two travel together often enough that one label is rarely the whole story.

A specific difficulty with reading, written expression or number sits alongside attention problems in a large share of cases, and it needs its own…

Support does not have to stop at eighteen. Plan for it to thin out gradually through the twenties, at a level everyone has agreed rather than one that gets argued over every month.

A workable version names three things: what is still being helped with, how much, and when you will look at it again. Every six months is usually…