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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
When they are upset, move physically closer before you say anything.
Nearness often comforts before any words can, and asks nothing in return.
When somebody manages a partner through anger, it is worth asking what the control is guarding. Very often the answer is a fear of being left.
Telling someone that nobody else would have them is that fear turned into a weapon, and it usually arrives when the person feels furthest away.…
Ask which kind of support they want today rather than deciding for them.
Sometimes it is help, sometimes only company; asking spares you both the wrong gift.
Before you respond, say back what you heard them mean.
Being understood, even before being agreed with, settles almost everything.
A new response cannot be laid on top of a cycle that is still turning. Break the circle first, even clumsily, and the room for something else appears.
Interrupting looks small and slightly silly: standing up, walking to another room, going quiet mid sentence, putting the phone face down.…
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