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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Faces in the curtains, a figure in the dark: the part of you that spots danger would rather be wrong ten times than miss once. It reads people the same way.
That bias is old and cheap insurance rather than stupidity. Knowing it is running lets you add a second look before you act, especially with thin…
Listen to how you narrate it to yourself. What on earth is this nonsense keeps the heat on. I am puzzled, what might this be does not.
The words are not cosmetic. Outraged narration keeps the body up, and curiosity is hard to hold at the same time as fury. Choose your replacement…
Focus on the person and it feels personal. Widen out to what is around them, the hour, the queue, the week they are having, and it usually stops being about you.
That single instruction covers a lot of ground: it works on a picture, on a rude reply, and on your own attention when it has narrowed to one face.…
Not knowing what somebody else is carrying is reason enough to go easy on them. It is certainty about what they deserve that gives cruelty its permission.
You do not need a generous story about the person in order to hold back. Maybe is enough: maybe they are frightened, maybe something happened this…
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Sitting practice teaches four useful things about anger: everything passes, the senses are calmer ground than the story, you do not have to attend to every thought, and you are not the words you use about yourself.
Take them one at a time. When something flares, the quickest of the four is usually the second: put your attention on your feet or the sound of the…