Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

What matches

29 practices

Narrow these down

Four in, hold four, four out, hold four. The holds are the strong part of this one, and they stay optional every single time.

Some people find the pauses deeply settling. Others meet the edge of what they can tolerate there, especially at the bottom of the exhale. Both are…

Five minutesBreathingBody basedQur’an 65:7One line of research

Try a small dab of something cooling on the tip of your nose before a meal you expect to be tense. The cool spot gives your attention somewhere ordinary to sit.

Balm, a menthol stick, cold water on the wrists: the substance is not really the point. What helps is a mild, unusual sensation you can keep…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 25:48One line of research

Clench your fist a few times, then open it a different way each time: fingers first, thumb last, slowly, all at once. The second half is the harder half, and it is the whole exercise.

Clenching runs itself. Opening on purpose takes a small piece of attention back from the automatic. It fits in a pocket, nobody at the table can see…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 4:103One line of research

Watch your hands. A fist that has closed without you deciding to close it is often the earliest honest report you get that you are angry.

Being told to notice when you are getting angry rarely works, because noticing is the first thing anger takes away. One specific, checkable place is…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 3:191One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

By the time you feel angry, your body has been at it for a few seconds already. Anything that starts with noticing is always starting from behind.

That is not a reason to give up on noticing. It is a reason to have something ready that does not need much noticing to begin. A rehearsed routine,…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 50:39One line of research

Deliberation has liberation sitting inside it. Cheap as wordplay, but it is the point: the space you take before you act is the freedom you have.

Cues like this earn their keep by being reachable when you are too hot to reason anything out. Tie it to something physical, so the hand position…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 89:27One line of research

Better to hum like a bee than to sting like one. Silly, and that is why it will still be there when you need it.

Techniques you can only recall when calm are not much use, since the moment they are needed is the moment your thinking goes. A short phrase that…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 20:14One line of research

Squeeze the hand, hold it for a few seconds, then let it go slowly. The letting go is where the calm is, and it works better once you have practised the long version.

Full muscle relaxation, working through the body group by group, takes about twenty minutes and is worth doing a handful of times. Once your body…

Twenty minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 20:14One line of research

Movement can settle you or wind you further up, and the difference is mostly what your mind is doing while you move.

Pacing the kitchen while you build the case against someone keeps the whole system revved. The same twenty minutes spent counting breaths or noticing…

Twenty minutesCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 13:28One line of research

If you are going to bring attention to your body, start with where your body is rather than what it feels. Feet on the floor, back against the chair, the weight of your hands in your lap.

Attention to the inside, the chest, the stomach, the throat, sits close to the emotional wiring and can open more than you meant to open. Position in…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 51:21One line of research

One question does a lot of work: is what my body is doing right now a fair match for what is actually in front of me? Ask it plainly, and let the answer be either yes or no.

The point is not to talk yourself out of the feeling. The signal is information and it deserves a hearing. But you can hold it up against the room…

Five minutesFeeling from the insideBody basedQur’an 12:53One line of research

Instead of breathing deeply in general, pick the place that feels tight, the front of the ribs, the chest, one shoulder, and send the breath there.

You are not really moving air into your shoulder, but putting your attention there while you breathe does two things: you start to feel that area in…

Five minutesGrounding and settlingBody basedQur’an 39:23Long taught, never tested

Open your mouth and put on a big obvious fake yawn. More often than not a real one follows, and the soft palate lets go with it.

Yawns are catching, so if you are sitting with someone else one of you starting will usually set off the other. Let it be a proper one: jaw wide,…

A minuteTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 8:11One line of research

Most of us hold a whole day around the eyes without knowing it. Scrunch them shut, open them wide, then rest your fingertips lightly over them for a few breaths.

After that, try the small points: the spot between your eyebrows, your temples, the soft dip under each eye where the cheekbone begins. Press only as…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 12:96One line of research

Put your right hand flat on your left upper chest, gather the skin gently and draw it downwards, then tilt your head and lift your left ear away from it. Hold there and wait.

You are making a long slow stretch up the front of the neck, not pressing on anything. Wait rather than count: somewhere in the next minute a deeper…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 26:80One line of research

One of the quiet gains from body practice is that you can feel more without having to do something about it straight away. The feeling arrives, you watch it, it passes.

That watching part is worth practising on small things: an itch you do not scratch, cold hands, mild boredom. Building room in ordinary moments means…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 90:17One line of research

Tapping pairs light contact on acupressure points with saying the trouble out loud. The claims made for it run ahead of the evidence, and it is cheap, quick and safe enough to try.

The idea underneath is that you hold the distressing thing in mind while your body receives a steady, harmless signal at the same time. Whether the…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 17:82One line of research

The usual round runs inside eyebrow, outside eye, under eye, under nose, middle of chin, collarbone, under arm, with the top of the head if you want it. About five soft taps at each, naming the thing briefly as you go.

Nothing here should hurt. Fingertips, light, more of a tap than a knock. The practical value of a route like this is that your attention keeps moving…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 5:6One line of research

If tapping feels too jumpy, use the same face points differently. Feel for a tender spot inside the eyebrow, under the eye, or just below the cheekbone towards the nose, then make slow small circles there.

Vary it: lighter, then a little deeper, circling one way and then the other, and see which direction the tissue seems to prefer. Slow steady contact…

Five minutesTouch and bodyworkBody basedQur’an 9:128One line of research

Breathing that has gone almost invisible happens in both kinds of stillness, so it will not tell you which one you are looking at. Muscle tone will.

Look at the jaw, the hands, the shoulders, the way the body is being held in the chair. Tight and set is one thing. Slack and heavy is another. You…

A minuteYour nervous systemBody basedQur’an 32:9One line of research