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Some signals cannot be acted on. Ringing in the ears, an old ache, a resentment about something long finished: the alarm is real and there is nothing to answer it with.
Fighting a signal you cannot switch off lays a second misery on top of the first. People who live well with long term pain tend to do something else…
Most of us think there are two things to do with anger: hold it in or let it out. There is a third, which is to stop, stay still, and watch it without doing either.
Holding it in has you clamped shut and seething. Letting it out has you saying things you will be repairing for weeks. The third one feels like doing…
A calming skill handed over at the wrong moment reads as your anger is not welcome here. For someone taught as a child that their anger was unacceptable, that is the old prohibition arriving again in kinder clothes.
Let the anger be seen first. Say that it makes sense, that there is a reason for it, and only then offer anything that settles the body. The order…
Accepting reality as it is means dropping the fight with what has already happened. It does not mean staying somewhere that is still harming you.
The two get confused often, usually by people who were told to be patient by whoever benefited from their patience. A rough test: acceptance is for…
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