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If you feel yourself rising, sit down. It is the smallest instruction in the whole toolkit and often the one that works.
Standing tall with a raised voice tells your own body that a fight is on, and it tells the other person the same thing, so they brace and match you.…
A sigh opens the chest and drops the guard for a second. That is part of why it feels like relief and part of why the other person softens too.
Anger holds the body braced: shoulders up, chest closed, everything protecting the middle. A sigh undoes some of that, and it is hard to keep the…
In a hostile exchange, try a slow hmm instead of a reply. It sounds like someone thinking, and it puts a long out breath in the way of whatever you were about to say.
The sound we make when we are unsure is already in everyone's repertoire, and it reads as puzzlement rather than as a threat, so the other person has…
If you notice a hard locked stare, in yourself or in the room, look away. Empty space is the safest thing to look at, because it says nothing back.
Two people staring each other down are feeding one another, and each second of it raises both of them. Breaking that needs no words, which matters,…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
There is a fair worry that punch shaped exercise simply practises the punch. The test is easy: if the angry story is still running in your head, it is rehearsal.
You can check mid set. Ask what you are actually attending to. Counting, the burn in your arms and the sound of your breathing are all signs the…