Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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A wave across the road, a joke with the man in the shop, asking someone how they are and meaning it. These unplanned seconds count for more than they look like they should.

They are also the easiest place to start when arranging a proper meet up feels like too much. Almost nothing is at stake in a greeting, so a fear of…

A minuteFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 25:63One line of research

Moods travel. Laughter spreads through a group of friends, and so does contempt, gloom and low grinding cynicism. It is fair to think about which rooms you sit in.

This is not about cutting people off. It is closer to noticing that you leave certain conversations heavier than you arrived, and choosing to make…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 6:68One line of research

Pulling back from things is easier. That is not the same as safer. The cost of a smaller life arrives later and quietly, which is exactly why it goes unnoticed.

It helps to be honest about the trade. Saying no to the party buys you a calm evening and charges you a slightly smaller world. Once or twice that is…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 7:200One line of research

If your only system for remembering things is your head, of course you are anxious. Nothing is safe in there and some part of you knows it.

Some people hold everything mentally because letting go of it feels like the thing will stop existing. The answer is not trying harder to remember.…

Five minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 2:286One line of research

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.

Remembering to do it

Breaking the worry loop

When you use something to cope

What you are actually defending

The moment before you snap

Facing it a step at a time

Righteous anger and perfectionism

Choosing your response

Self-compassion

When everything feels flat

Use your strengths

Anger, alcohol and the body

Shame

Tolerate distress

Being seen and judged

Emotions as signals

Obsessions and compulsions

When anger turns to harm

Touch and bodywork

Getting assessed and diagnosed

Question the thought

Practising under provocation

Rest and pacing

Feeling from the inside

Certain situations take you apart every single time. The reunion, that one relative, the friend who makes remarks. You are allowed to simply not go.

This is not cowardice, it is arranging your life around what you already know about yourself. Much the same logic as not keeping the biscuits in the…

Five minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 6:68One line of research

Time with people is not the nice extra you get to once the real work is done. Put it alongside sleep, medication and exercise rather than underneath them.

It helps to treat it like any other part of a plan, with something specific in the week rather than a general intention to be more social. One…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 2:45One line of research

Belonging to the group does nothing. Going does. Having a friend does nothing either, unless you see them.

So count the actual events. How many times this week did you sit with someone, not message them. A number you can check beats a resolution to be more…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 8:11One line of research

Fear tends to make its case as caution. Try not to let it quietly shrink what you are willing to attempt, because the shrinking rarely stops on its own.

If you have been criticised often enough, staying out of things stops feeling like a choice and starts feeling like plain good sense. The way back is…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 3:139One line of research

When someone has gone flat, the question is not what they ought to be doing. It is what still has any life in it for them, however small or unimpressive, and then how to get more of that.

Activities handed out from the outside do not lift much. Someone who brightens talking about their car, or a cousin, or a game has just given you the…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusCBTQur’an 94:1One line of research

Explain the calming corner on a quiet Tuesday, not in the middle of a meltdown. New instructions do not go in once a child is already rising.

Walk them through it when nothing is happening. This is where it is, this is what you can do there, this is how you come back. Let the whole class…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 23:97One line of research

Whatever the correction is, teach it before you need it. A routine the child already knows can be started with two words instead of a negotiation in front of everybody.

Show them the table, the worksheets, what happens when they finish, and let them try it once while nothing is wrong. After that the instruction is…

Twenty minutesFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 48:4One line of research

Connection does not have to be human. A dog will not judge how your week went, and it will get you out of the door twice a day whether you feel like it or not.

If people currently feel exhausting or risky, an animal is often the easiest place to begin. Part of the good is the company and part of it is the…

LongerFeelings and focusADHD skillsQur’an 48:4One line of research