Practices

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Some things only happen when another person is there, even if they are doing something entirely different. Ring a friend and clean your two kitchens together with the phone on the counter.

This works for studying, tidying, paperwork and the weekly shop, because what you are borrowing is presence rather than help. Agree a start time and…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 5:2One line of research

Ask what is working and what is not, rather than whether you did well or badly. The first question you can answer honestly. The second one you will lie to yourself about.

At the end of a week, three questions. What went better than I expected. What got in the way. What is the one thing I want to change. Notice where…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 20:114One line of research

Start at the moment you have to be there and work backwards, writing each step and how long it takes, until you reach the hour you have to get up.

Interview at ten. Twenty five minutes on the train, ten minutes walking, fifteen minutes early to be safe, twenty five to dress and eat, and the…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 96:4One line of research

A calendar holds things that happen at a time. A list holds things that must get done but not at any particular hour. Put both in one place and you break both.

When everything goes in the calendar, the real appointments get lost among forty invented blocks. When everything goes on the list, the dentist at…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:282One line of research

There is more about focus, starting, and adhd than the practices: the focus, starting, and adhd area has the themes and the courses too.

If you keep it all in your head, it is worth asking who else is keeping it. Very often somebody nearby is doing the remembering, and neither of you has ever said so out loud.

This matters because from outside it looks like coping, right up until that person is away, unwell or worn out by it. Ask the plain question at home:…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 42:38One line of research

A task with no time attached has nothing to bring it back to you. Give it an hour, Friday two until three, and the diary carries it instead of your memory.

Do this on a Sunday with the list in front of you. Not everything needs a slot, only the things that have been sliding from week to week. Be honest…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 6:59One line of research

When someone asks for an hour of your time, your head searches for a clash, finds nothing, and says yes. A calendar with everything already in it turns that guess into something you can look at.

The trick is to put in the whole of your life, not only the appointments other people gave you. Travel, meals, the school run, the hour you actually…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:282One line of research

Pick one aim big enough to hold the year, and let it be the thing you measure choices against. Not a list of values. One.

It might be finishing the course, or being the parent who is actually there in the evenings. When something new arrives you hold it against that one…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:55One line of research

Read down a long to-do list and you will find things belonging to a person you were three years ago. Some of them were never good ideas. They got written down anyway.

Seeing the list that way makes deleting bearable. You are not abandoning your ambitions, you are letting go of ideas that arrived on a hopeful…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 84:19One line of research

A healthy list loses items as well as gaining them. Some leave because they are done and some because they did not survive the week. Both are normal.

If the only way something can leave your list is by being completed, the list can only grow, and every glance at it will feel worse than the last…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:280One line of research

If deleting makes you anxious, do not delete. Keep two lists: a short one for this week, and a long one where things are safe but out of the way.

The anxiety is usually about losing the idea rather than about the task itself, and a separate holding list answers that. Nothing is gone, it is…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 6:59One line of research

A pile is mostly decisions you have not made. You did not know what to do with the thing, so you put it down there to sort out later, and later has not arrived.

Read that way, tidying stops being about tidiness. The job is not moving things around, it is making forty small decisions you have been putting off.…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 10:61One line of research

Start with less work than they can manage, not more, and add back slowly. Break the long jobs into pieces small enough that each one can be finished and noticed.

Setting the first week deliberately below capacity feels like giving in. What it actually does is produce a run of finished things, and a child who…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 22:78One line of research

Teach the school's online system properly, once, and then treat it as something known. I do not know how to use it cannot stay true forever.

Sit down together and go through it: where assignments appear, how to see what is due, what to do when it will not load. Until that has happened,…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 27:40One line of research

Sort the room out before you sort the willpower out. One agreed place to work, television off, phone in another room for the duration.

Attention here is pulled by whatever is brightest, and a phone face down on the table still wins. Taking the competition out of the room is far more…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:55One line of research

A behaviour agreement needs six things in it: the goal, exactly what the child does, what they earn, what happens if they do not, signatures from everyone, and an adult who sticks to it.

Most of these fall apart over what was meant rather than over what was done, so write the specifics down to the level of what counts as finished. The…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 2:282One line of research

Guard sleep first, especially through any long stretch away from the usual routine. Once the nights slide, everything else you have set up starts giving way.

Holidays, illness and school closures are when bedtimes drift, and a fortnight of late nights undoes more than any homework plan can fix. Keep the…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:47One line of research

Put the schoolwork early in the day and let the screens come after it. For a teenager early means later than you would like, but the order stays the same.

Effort is a thing that runs down through a day, so the demanding job goes where there is most of it left. Teenagers really do wake up later, and…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 12:47One line of research

Work the deal out with the child instead of handing it to them. Much the same rules, an entirely different feeling.

Let them argue for a bit longer on the console, or for Friday off, and give ground where you honestly can. The terms tend to land in roughly the same…

Twenty minutesSystems for daily lifeADHD skillsQur’an 42:38One line of research

If you are pulled towards risk, you will do better giving that pull somewhere with a floor under it than trying to switch it off. Fast, high, cold, loud: choose the planned version rather than the one that turns up at two in the morning.

Work out what the appeal actually is. Speed, height, cold water, a crowd, the edge of fear. Then find the form of it that has brakes: a climbing wall…

LongerSystems for daily lifeMedical and treatmentQur’an 7:31One line of research