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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
There is an old story about two wolves fighting inside a person, and the winner turns out to be whichever one gets fed. It is only a story, but the arithmetic in it is right.
Feeding here means whatever you actually rehearse: the conversation you replay at two in the morning, the reply you draft and delete, the grudge you…
Resolving harder is not a plan. What protects you in a hot moment is a skill you have already practised and a situation you have set up in your favour.
Willpower is at its thinnest exactly when you need it most: late, tired, hungry, already provoked. So do the work earlier, where it is cheap. Decide…
This goes the way learning a bicycle went. You could not, then you could but only with all of your attention, then one day you rode without thinking about it. The middle bit is the ugly bit.
In that middle phase the skill works but it costs you everything to use, and it looks clumsy from the outside. That is where most people decide it is…
When you offer a practice to someone, use their words for it rather than yours. Keep the fuller version ready for the day they ask where it comes from.
A plain, unmystical version suits most people and costs them nothing to accept. Anyone who gets curious can have all of it, and they will take more…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Most children do not pick up reading by sitting near books. Around a fifth need very structured, repetitive teaching before it clicks, and about half of the rest still need a good deal of deliberate instruction, so structured teaching is the ordinary case rather than a special measure.
It helps to stop asking who qualifies for help and start asking how much teaching each child needs. A child left to fail badly enough to earn support…