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Some of what teaches you most arrives rudely, from people you would not have chosen, at a time you did not pick. A provocation is often that kind of lesson.
This is not about being grateful to somebody who treated you badly. It is about what you do with the information afterwards. An ugly encounter can…
Stay a beginner on purpose. If you are still learning, being corrected costs you nothing, because you never claimed to be finished.
Notice how much anger is really the defence of a position: I already know this, you are treating me like a fool. Put the position down and most of…
Treat a flare-up as a reading rather than a failure. It is telling you where something is sore.
Instead of the usual round of apology and self-disgust, get curious. What exactly set it off, what did it seem to put at risk, why that today and not…
Fear explains a great deal of anger, but not all of it. Sometimes you are simply blocked from something you wanted and nothing is threatening you at all.
Plain frustration counts. So does anger that has become a habit, or one that keeps going because it gets results. If you go looking for a fear and…
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If anger runs on the fear system, then the things that settle fear are worth trying on anger: staying in the room a bit longer, letting your body come down before you speak, going back over the story you told yourself about what was happening.
Most anger advice is about clamping down, and clamping down on something frightened rarely holds for long. Treating it as fear gives you gentler…