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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
A kinder explanation of the behaviour does not replace the accurate name for it. Both belong on the page.
Understanding anger as fear changes how you approach somebody and what you try. It does not change what the problem is called, what gets written…
Stay a beginner on purpose. If you are still learning, being corrected costs you nothing, because you never claimed to be finished.
Notice how much anger is really the defence of a position: I already know this, you are treating me like a fool. Put the position down and most of…
Fear explains a great deal of anger, but not all of it. Sometimes you are simply blocked from something you wanted and nothing is threatening you at all.
Plain frustration counts. So does anger that has become a habit, or one that keeps going because it gets results. If you go looking for a fear and…
When a young person will not go in, social fear is the most common thing underneath. Start there, before anyone reaches for words like lazy or defiant.
Ask about the parts of the day with other people in them: the corridor between lessons, the dining hall, being called on, changing for sport, walking…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
Listen for the moment a young person starts explaining why home is better. A preference with reasons attached is much harder to shift than plain distress.
Distress you can soothe, and then move through together. A worked out case, less demanding work, nobody staring, no awkwardness at lunch, is…