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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
If you go silent and shut down, do not just stonewall. Say you need a break, and come back when calm.
Silent withdrawal makes it worse. Name that you are overwhelmed, take twenty minutes, then re-engage.
When either of you floods, take a real break of at least twenty minutes before continuing, and agree when to return.
Past a certain heat the body cannot hear reason. Stop, settle, and come back at the time you set.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.