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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Certain situations take you apart every single time. The reunion, that one relative, the friend who makes remarks. You are allowed to simply not go.
This is not cowardice, it is arranging your life around what you already know about yourself. Much the same logic as not keeping the biscuits in the…
Do not walk into a hard event and improvise. Ten minutes beforehand, work out what is likely to happen, what you will do about it, and how you get out if you need to.
If someone is coming with you, make it a shared plan. What the signal is when one of you needs air, who says what to whom, when you leave. The point…
The reason your partner follows you out of the room is usually not control. It is the fear that if you leave now, this will never be finished.
So say the return out loud and mean it. I am not dropping this, I will be back at nine and we will finish it. Then be back at nine. A few kept…
A real apology has no because in it. I would not have shouted if you had not looked at me like that is the argument again, wearing an apology's clothes.
Name the thing you did, own it flatly, and stop there. Then do something that shows it: the phone call you dodged, the mess cleared up, the thing you…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.
You may not get to be a calmer person any time soon. What can change quickly is what you do in the twenty minutes after you lose your temper, and that is the part people remember.
Reactivity shifts slowly if at all, while repair is a skill you could be noticeably better at by next week. Go back sooner than feels comfortable.…