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Worry and anxiety
Anxiety is not a character flaw and it is not weak faith. It is a body doing what it was built to do, at a moment when it is not needed. The practices here work on the loop itself: what worry promises and never delivers, what avoiding costs you, and how to let the body come down.
What works for this
Cognitive behavioural therapy
The treatment with the largest trial base for anxiety works on what you do about worry rather than on what you worry about. Catching it, postponing it, and testing a prediction instead of arguing with it.
One move, today
Pick one worry you had today. Write the exact thing you feared would happen, then write what actually happened. You are collecting evidence, not arguing.
What matches
8 practicesWhen a step does not happen, cut the next one down without any speech about it. Smaller, and carry on.
Progress here is often slower than anyone would like, and that is the method working rather than the method failing. What does real damage is a run…
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Stay with a step until it stops being interesting. Not until you have survived it once, but until it is ordinary, and then move up.
Moving on too early turns the ladder into a run of narrow escapes, and each escape teaches that you got out just in time. The marker worth waiting…
If this has been going on for years, medication is often part of what helps, and it usually needs a longer run at it than people expect. Starting low and building up slowly is the normal way of doing it.
The slow build is there to keep side effects bearable through the first few weeks, which is where most people quietly give up. It helps to agree with…
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If attention and planning are already hard work for you, then the very tools for handling anxiety are the things you find difficult. That is not a failure to try. It means the plan needs more scaffolding and more repetition.
Expect to need things that sit outside your head: written steps, alarms, someone who checks in, a shorter ladder with smaller rungs. Go slower than a…
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