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Your body
You cannot think your way out of a body that is braced. This area starts there: the breath, the ground under you, moving, eating, resting, and the small physical things that change how the rest of the day lands.
What works for this
Working from the body first
A body that has not slept, eaten or moved has less left over for holding itself steady. Changing the state you are in is often faster than changing the thoughts you are having, and it is more reliable when you are already worn out.
One move, today
A long slow out breath, longer than the in breath, three times. The out breath is the part that does the work.
What matches
17 practicesHot yoga asks you to keep drinking all the way through the class. If forgetting to eat and drink is one of your regular problems, choose a different room.
This is not about the style being bad. It is about matching what you choose to the things you genuinely find hard. Dehydration creeps up quietly and…
The same breathing serves different jobs at different times. Early on it may be there to help you sleep and stay contained. Later it may be there to help you feel more, not less.
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The benefit of a settling practice is cumulative. A fortnight of it now and then does little; the people who get most out of it are the ones who kept going for years.
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This is a more useful target than clearing your mind, because you can tell whether it is happening. Some days it is bumper to bumper and the practice…
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Repetition is what makes a practice smooth, in the way a piece of music or a gear change stops needing your whole attention after a few weeks. Early…
If nobody helped you learn to settle when you were small, you can still learn it now. Slower and more deliberately, but genuinely.
Reading about early development can leave people feeling sentenced, as though the window shut at three and that was that. The same capacity to adapt…
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Very slow breathing can bring on air hunger, that feeling of not getting enough, and for some people it tips straight into panic. Good reason to…
Yoga, breath practice, loving kindness, gratitude, forgiveness work, tapping, rubbing your own shoulders: they all seem to move the same dial. Choose whichever one you will actually keep doing.
It is a strangely mixed list, and the mix is the point. If practices that look nothing alike arrive at similar places, then the argument about which…