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Focus, starting, and ADHD
Most advice about focus is written for a brain that starts easily. This area is not. It covers what ADHD actually is, how to make a start when starting is the hard part, how to bring a future consequence close enough to feel, and how to stop paying for it in shame.
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Implementation intentions
Putting things off is mood repair rather than laziness: delay removes the bad feeling straight away and the cost lands later. So the move is not more willpower, it is a plan specific enough to run without a decision.
One move, today
Write one sentence: when it is [time] and I am at [place], I will [the first small action]. Naming when and where is the part the evidence supports.
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8 practicesEverybody finds unrewarding tasks harder to start. If yours seem to cost several times what other people pay, that is a real difference in how your brain handles reward, not a flaw in your character.
It shows up worst on the jobs with nothing built into them: the form, the receipts, the email you have already read four times. Knowing the cost is…
Make the first move small enough to be almost silly. Open the document and type the date. Put the trainers by the door. Everything after that is cheaper.
Nearly all the cost of a task sits at the entrance, so that is where your design effort should go. Decide the first physical action the night before,…
Everything you say about how much you hate this job is probably true, and saying it again makes the job heavier. Notice the second or third round and stop there.
Complaining once is fine and often useful. The loop is what costs you, since each pass makes the task feel worse and spends the energy you were going…
When somebody looks like they have stopped caring, it is often that they have stopped expecting it to go well. Giving up on yourself tends to come after a long run of trying and being told it was not enough.
That changes what helps. Another plan, another chart, another talk about wasted potential all land on the wrong problem. What shifts things is a…
Before deciding you are avoiding something, check that you actually know what it wants. How long, in what form, by when, and what counts as finished.
A surprising amount of stuckness is not avoidance at all. You cannot start a job whose shape you cannot see, so your mind slides off it and you call…
Some days the whole job is putting everything you need in one place and then walking away. Tomorrow you begin already halfway in.
This splits the hard part in two, and both halves are small. Paint, brushes and tape by the door. The forms and the calculator on the kitchen table.…
Look at what you are actually working for this week. If every item is there to stop someone being cross or something going wrong, you are running on avoidance, and it is exhausting.
Avoidance does get things done, but only at the last moment and only with dread attached, and it leaves behind nothing you wanted. Take one thing off…
Promise yourself twenty minutes, or one podcast episode, rather than a finished result. Then the end is guaranteed however badly it goes.
Open ended unpleasant jobs are hard to walk into because you cannot see the far edge of them. A timer gives you one. Twenty minutes of receipts on…