Lesson 2 of 6 · Control is a pattern, not an incident
The one sentence
Noticing only, and only in your head.
The move
Looking at the pattern rather than the last incident
5 minutes or less
- Think across months rather than about the worst night.
- Has what you are allowed to do got smaller?
- Do you check how they are before you decide anything?
- Control shows up in the shape of a year, not in one evening, which is why nothing about a single incident settles this.
If it does not work
Do not write any of this down anywhere they might find it. Holding it in your head is enough for this step and it is safer.
Write the one sentence
A specific plan works better than a good intention. Fill both halves in your own words.
When
I will
Put it in your calendar
Pick a day and a time and you will get a calendar file to open. Nothing is sent anywhere.
Kept in this browser only.