What the Sunnah records, and what it does not

The first of four. Men who beat their wives are named here as not the best of the community.

Iyas ibn Abdullah ibn Abu Dhubab reported the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying:Do not beat Allah's handmaidens, but when Umar came to the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and said: Women have become emboldened towards their husbands, he (the Prophet) gave permission to beat them. Then many women came round the family of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) complaining against their husbands. So the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: Many women have gone round Muhammad's family complaining against their husbands. They are not the best among you

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The second. A Companion asked what a wife is owed and was told to feed her as he feeds himself, clothe her as he clothes himself, not to beat her and not to revile her.

Narrated Mu'awiyah al-Qushayri: I went to the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and asked him: What do you say (command) about our wives? He replied: Give them food what you have for yourself, and clothe them by which you clothe yourself, and do not beat them, and do not revile them

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The third. He never struck anyone with his hand, not a woman and not a servant.

A'isha reported that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) never beat anyone with his hand, neither a woman nor a servant, but only, in the case when he had been fighting in the cause of Allah and he never took revenge for anything unless the things made inviolable by Allah were made violable; he then took revenge for Allah, the Exalted and Glorious

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None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have relations with her at the end of the day. This is disgust at the act, not a permission with a limit attached, and it is read backwards constantly.

Narrated `Abdullah bin Zam`a:The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day

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The best of you is the best to his wives, and I am the best of you to my wives. The measure is put on conduct at home rather than on anything visible in public.

Narrated 'Aishah:that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "The best of you is the best to his wives, and I am the best of you to my wives, and when your companion dies, leave him alone

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The first of the three that matter for what you can actually do. A woman came saying she found no fault in her husband's character or religion but could not remain with him, and she was released, without proving misconduct and without a lecture on patience.

Narrated Ibn `Abbas:The wife of Thabit bin Qais came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! I do not blame Thabit for defects in his character or his religion, but I, being a Muslim, dislike to behave in un-Islamic manner (if I remain with him)." On that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said (to her), "Will you give back the garden which your husband has given you (as Mahr)?" She said, "Yes." Then the Prophet (ﷺ) said to Thabit, "O Thabit! Accept your garden, and divorce her once

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The second. Habibah bint Sahl was beaten by her husband, came after the morning and complained, and it was settled in that conversation. No waiting period, no mediation, and nobody tells her to go back and try again. Plainly, this is a record of what was done once, in front of him, and not a ruling about you.

Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu'minin: Habibah daughter of Sahl was the wife of Thabit ibn Qays Shimmas He beat her and broke some of her part. So she came to the Prophet (ﷺ) after morning, and complained to him against her husband. The Prophet (ﷺ) called on Thabit ibn Qays and said (to him): Take a part of her property and separate yourself from her. He asked: Is that right, Messenger of Allah? He said: Yes. He said: I have given her two gardens of mine as a dower, and they are already in her possession. The Prophet (ﷺ) said: Take them and separate yourself from her

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And obedience is only in what is good. To be exact: this was said about a commander who ordered his men into a fire and was disobeyed, the disobedience is the thing praised, and the principle is being applied to a household here rather than quoted as though it had been said about one.

Narrated `Ali:The Prophet (ﷺ) , sent an army and appointed some man their commander The man made a fire and then said (to the soldiers), "Enter it." Some of them intended to enter it while some others said, 'We have run away from it (i.e., embraced Islam to save ourselves from the 'fire')." They mentioned that to the Prophet, and he said about people who had intended to enter the fire. ''If they had entered it, they would have remained In it till the Day of Resurrection.'' Then he said to others, "No obedience for evil deeds, obedience is required only in what is good

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One more, and it is not about marriage at all. If you have been told that your prayers will not be accepted, this is what the sound material says about somebody in your position. It is information about how you are heard, and it is not a substitute for what comes next.

Ibn 'Abbas narrated:"The Messenger of Allah sent Mu'adh [bin Jabal] to Yemen, and said: 'Beware of the supplication of the oppressed; for indeed there is no barrier between it and Allah

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