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Ask the school which pieces genuinely have to be made up and which can be written off, and get the answer in writing. What is left should be small enough to see the end of. Nothing undoes a hard first day back quite like sitting down at four o'clock in front of eleven weeks of catching up.
The moment you are freed of one task work on (Quran 94:7). Taken as a rhythm rather than a demand, that is how a backlog gets cleared, one piece at a time.
الشرح
فَإِذَا فَرَغۡتَ فَٱنصَبۡ
The moment you are freed [of one task] work on
Qur’an 94:7read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
A systematic review and meta-analysis comparing exposure with cognitive therapy in anxiety disorders found that approaching the feared situation carries much of the benefit. It compares whole treatments, so single ingredients cannot be cleanly separated out. The practical reading here is to protect the approach: if a child is going to do the hard thing, the rest of the day should not be arranged so that doing it goes badly.
Ougrin D. (2011). Efficacy of exposure versus cognitive therapy in anxiety disorders: systematic review and meta-analysis.. BMC psychiatry doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
If going back is followed by something miserable, going back is what gets learned as miserable.
Every adjustment should arrive with the date you will start reducing it. Written down at the beginning, while everyone is still reasonable.
On a day at home, be the person who supervises rather than the person who keeps them company. The warmth is not cancelled, it moves to the evening.
Two weeks away is the point to stop waiting and ask for help. A year away is beyond what one appointment a week can carry.